Was scrolling through the many emails in my yahoo box and this was a response I came across. This sweet sister was responding to a previous post, May Allah reward her, aameen:"You cant expect for a man to appreciate you if YOU don't even value yourself. You can't expect for a man to be head over heals about you when you don't even absolutely adore yourself. You can't expect for a man to teach you when you have never taken the initiative to learn on your own. You can't expect for a man to want to keep company with you and enjoy talking to you, if you are a afraid of being by yourself. So you surely cant expect for a man to love you if you don't even love yourself."
This is the post she was responding to, another good reminder masha'Allah:I AM WORTH A LOT
In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question
'What kind of man are you looking for?'
She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye and asking,
'Do youreally want to know?'
Reluctantly, he said, 'Yes.'
She began to expound...
'As a woman in this day and age, I am in a position to ask aman what he can do for me that I can't do for myself. I pay my ownbills. I take care of my household without the help of any man...or woman for that matter. I am in the position to ask,
'What can you bring to the table?'
The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money. She quickly corrected his thought and stated,
'I am not referring to money, I need something more. I need a man who is striving for perfection in every aspect of life. 'He sat back in hischair, folded his arms, and asked her to explain. She said,
'I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection; mentally, because I need conversation and mental stimulation. I don't need a simple-mindedman. I am looking for someone who is striving for perfection spiritually because I don't need to be unequally yoked...believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster. I need a man who is striving for perfection financially because I don't need a financial burden. I am looking for someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded. I am looking for someone who I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn't taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive...he just has to be worthy. God made woman to be a helpmate for man. I can't help a man if he can't help himself.'
When she finished her spill, she looked at him. He sat there with a puzzled look on his face. He said,
'You are asking a lot.'
She replied,
'I'm worth a lot.'Now this is somthing most woman have probably heard before, but for me it's something I tend to forget from time to time......so if your like me, feel free to come by and remind yourself as often as you like ;-)
